Do you have reaffirming to yourself how you don’t need help, or you can do it yourself and yet don’t progress?
This need for independence at all costs draws on masculine energy and impacts men and women alike. Essentially, this trauma-driven inclination sabotages your potential success because you feel unable to rely on help.
Stemming from your childhood, you would do things for yourself for fear of exposing limitations after all you and others view you as a high achiever.
Maybe you got 80% plus in all but one subject, and you were made to feel like a failure by your parents’ high expectation. From then on you had the belief that you had to prove yourself and do things for yourself.
You might have been bullied at school and instead of confiding in your parents you felt ashamed and responsible for how you were treated, and felt you had to get yourself out this situation.
These long held thoughts, emotions and beliefs trigger the need for ultra-independence in adulthood.
Those clients that acknowledge their need for assistance often take a transformative step forward when they decide to work with me. However, the pattern persists unless we address its root cause.
When faced with new strategies or challenges, ultra-independent individuals revert to familiar, albeit ineffective methods out of a desire to appear competent, even if it means stagnation. The fear of inadequacy triggering abandonment issues becomes too overwhelming.
Take, for instance, the struggle to delegate tasks. Despite being fully capable, the fear of others dropping the ball, ingrained from past experiences, leads to shouldering unnecessary work. Breaking free from these patterns requires addressing the original emotional imprint of abandonment and balancing masculine and feminine energy.
However, it's not a straightforward process. The subconscious mind, responsible for 95% of our mental power, and the emotional imprints in our somatic bodies cannot be easily dismissed. This is where my signature rewiring process, Rapid Breath Through Healing comes in—it heals at a root level delving into the subconscious and somatic, shifting beliefs around so you can start receiving support from within.
You can seek help without judgment, learn patiently, and fulfil their potential without self-sabotage. This transformation allows you to delegate mundane tasks, fostering a deeper understanding that you are supported and not alone on your journey.
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